Just before Christmas we were approached by the regional news programme, BBC Look North, who wanted to come to the Centre to film a segment for their upcoming feature on volunteering in the area. They were particularly interested in talking to Paula and Paul Roberts.
Paula had been diagnosed with terminal cancer in the Summer of 2010 – almost literally out of the blue. She and her husband Paul – the parents of two young children – turned up on our doorstep in a state of shock having been told that her life expectancy could be measured out in months rather than years.
Together we set out on an extraordinary journey which took us to places none of us could ever have imagined on that chill late summer’s afternoon two and half years ago. They became our close friends and we became – I hope – their haven and second family.
In due course, having succeeded in beating back her illness, Paula joined our Board of Trustees and took an active and enthusiastic part in our Volunteer programme. She wrote perceptive and articulate letters of support for our funding applications, was a vocal and persuasive supporter of the Centre and became a powerful ambassador for us in the local community.
By the time the Look North film crew arrived last Wednesday however, Paula was gravely ill. She was nevertheless absolutely determined to face the cameras and tell her story.
Tell her story she did: and she was magnificent.
Within 24 hours she had been admitted to hospital, and yesterday – with Paul at her bedside – she slipped peacefully away at the age of 44.
She fought her illness with grace, humour and a splendid – even breathtaking - bloody-mindedness. The Look North interview was both her swan song and her parting gift to us.
It will be shown – with Paul’s blessing - on BBC1 between 6.30 and 7.00pm on Monday the 28th.
Rest in peace, Paula. It was truly amazing knowing you.
(Photograph: Copyright Jacqueline Moore Photography.)



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January 24, 2013 at 3:23 pm
janice oliver
Beautiful words for a beautiful lady – thank you for everything you did for Paula and her family. The angels took her so she could have no more pain – god bless x
January 24, 2013 at 5:20 pm
Sam Fletcher
I feel very blessed to have known Paula, she was beautiful both on the inside and out. A lovely piece about her, may she rest in peace. Xx
January 24, 2013 at 8:51 pm
Kate Matthews
Gretchen, Moira, Andrea, Ralf and everyone else – you have been a pillar of strength for Paul and Paula and I am so grateful that you were, and still are, in their lives. Thank you. I will talk to you soon. Kate x
January 24, 2013 at 9:18 pm
Marilyn Dodd
My beautiful, brave niece Paula, she touched the hearts of everyone who knew her and will always be in mine ♥
January 24, 2013 at 9:53 pm
ceruleasbookshelf
Reblogged this on CeruleasBookshelf and commented:
I fully admit I’m probably one of the worst bloggers ever, however I found this very touching, especially as Paula’s aunt is a colleague and good friend of mine. Please read this and send up a thought for Paula and her family at this heartbreaking time. K x
January 25, 2013 at 3:03 am
Michelle Davies
Paula was a truly amazing person and this piece you have wrote about here sums up the courageous and graceful way she fought her battle with cancer. I am blessed to have know her. Our thoughts are with Paul and the kids at this sad time. Xxxx
January 25, 2013 at 7:15 am
Emma Jayne Agnew
I only knew Paula for a short while but on meeting her I knew she was a kind and courageous lady, I used to chat with her at the school gates, she never complained she just got on with her life, she was very brave, and has left a lasting impression on me, I truly hope she is in a better place and pain free, my thoughts are with her husband and family Xxx
January 25, 2013 at 10:23 am
Dawn & Shaun Pennington
Beautiful words RIP Paula. Our thoughts are with Paul and the children x
January 25, 2013 at 1:28 pm
Chris Wilcox
The memories come flooding back!! In October of 1995 my beautiful wife and best friend of 20 years,Liz,was,out of the blue, diagnosed with terminal cancer. After all possible avenues of treatment were exhausted we made the journey,in the snow,from Durham to Eskdale to visit the Centre .We were so pleased we did,the help and support the centre gave to both Liz and myself and our two children was just wonderful.We would have been lost without them. We managed to make a few trips over before Liz became to ill to travel,sadly she passed away in May 1996,aged just 38.
My thoughts are with Paul and his children,I know how hard it will be to come to terms with such a loss. I am sure that they,like myself,will continue to appreciate the care and support the Centre will offer them. Time does heal,but you never forget.
Look after yourselves.
January 25, 2013 at 3:34 pm
Sheena
I am so glad I got to know Paula, she was always full of chat and fun. This is so sad, she fought so hard to be with her husband and children, anyone who knew her will never forget her.
January 25, 2013 at 3:51 pm
Cindy lawrence
Nathan could not speak when he called me with news of Paula’s death. I felt a hook tearing my heart when I joined with all of you at the Chase in quiet moments yesterday.
Love
Cindy
January 25, 2013 at 4:48 pm
Vickie
It is hard to be so far away when something like this happens. Paula was so important to so many people, she will be missed! I hope you all find comfort and solace in your own way. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Paul and the precious little children. Rest in Peace Paula!
Love,
Vickie
January 27, 2013 at 9:45 pm
Dawn Sanderson
With love to you all, thinking about all Paula’s family at this sad time ,a very special lady and a special family Dawn x
January 28, 2013 at 4:42 am
Carole Wilson
Paula was an amazing woman and I am proud to have known her and called her a friend although gravely ill and in pain she still had time to listen if you had problems and offer advice, she made you forget just how ill she was when you were talking and having a laugh about various things, It was only as you left her house you would think I should have been comforting her!! but that was Paula. I will never forget you and our thoughts are with Paul and the children at this sad time.
Love
Carole & David
January 28, 2013 at 6:03 pm
Julie Kennedy
Paula a truly inspirational young lady, a warm smile and courage beyond belief, my thoughts are with Paul and the whole family x Julie
January 28, 2013 at 6:31 pm
alyson
Paula u fought till the end gave it your all you will be sadly missed by family n friends x you were a credit to your 2 beautiful children who will always have an angel watching over them xx my thoughts go out to my cousin Paul at this sad time also paulas family to xx
January 28, 2013 at 6:52 pm
Rebecca carter
Just seen Paula and her husband on Look North. RIP Paula and sending our thoughts to her husband, son and daughter. X
January 29, 2013 at 3:47 pm
Crosby Stevens
Paula was fabulous and we will miss her very much. Thinking of Paul and the kids. Love the Sterns.
February 7, 2013 at 11:40 am
carolina burgos
Hola somos jorge y carolina, somos de España y hemos encontrado unos globos con tarjetas que dicen “in memory paula roberts our dear friend 1968/2013 ” creemos que es de vuestra paula.
De inglaterra hasta españa es curioso el largo camino que han hecho.
Un saludo desde españa.
February 7, 2013 at 12:31 pm
Moira
Hola Jorge, hola Carolina,
¡Que sorpresa más linda! Eso sí es de nuestra Paula. Hemos soltado 44 globos ayer, durante su funeral, uno para cada año de su vida. Sé que su marido y sus hijos se van a alegrar de saber que han llegado tan lejos. ¡Muchísimas gracias para hacernos saberlo!
February 7, 2013 at 1:03 pm
carolina burgos
Hola moira, si me das una direccion email te envio unas fotos del globo con las tarjetas y del sitio donde han aparecido, y si os parece bien les ponemos 44 globos nuevos a las tarjetas y los soltamos otra vez.
Un saludo
February 7, 2013 at 1:56 pm
Moira
Hola Carolina,
Muchas gracias por tu oferta tan amable. Nos gustaría mucho ver las fotos de los globos y las tarjetas, y del sitio donde llegaron. Y sería maravilloso soltar otros 44 globos desde España, si estás segura de querer hacerlo. Eso sería un gran placer para Paul y los niños. Te escribo ahora mismo con mis detalles de contacto…
February 7, 2013 at 3:52 pm
Moira
Hola Carolina,
Traté de enviarte un correo, pero me lo rebotó. ¿Podrías enviarme las fotos a través de Admin@cccare.org? Te lo agradecería mucho. ¡Muchísimas gracias!
February 8, 2013 at 9:29 am
Moira
(Don’t worry everyone … we’ll be providing a translation of everything very soon …)
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